Thursday, May 28, 2015

On Waiting...

On Waiting: why patience is more than just a virtue

I’ve never been very good at waiting. I’ve always been a go-getter; a ready-for-action kinda gal. I’m kind of one of those people who are 150% in, or not at all. Once I get an idea in my head, and I’m crazy about said idea, I’m all in. Until I get bored, or lose interest, or it doesn’t work (although this doesn’t apply to my marriage and any future kids. I’ll always be 150% invested in my marriage and my kids). Then you’ll have a hard time convincing me to keep at it. So when it comes to waiting, I really struggle. I’m a lot like my dad in that way. My dad’s always been the person in the family who gets a proverbial bee in his bonnet and is then rearing to go.

So now D and I have plans for a new idea and I’m rearing to go. I’m ready and keen and excited but I have to wait. We’re not sure how long we’ll have to wait but we have to trust the process and wait. People in hospitals always say waiting is the hardest part ‘cos you don’t really know what’s going on with the person you love. So you have to wait until the doctor calls you and tells you what’s potting. Waiting is probably the worst part in anything cos as humans, our minds tend to assume the worst. We don’t know what’s cooking and we don’t know what the plan of action is so we assume the worst and we start planning. Not all of us are planners by nature, but I think our brains are planners when we’re forced to wait. The unknown scares us so we plan and have a backup plan. It’s probably how we cope. But I’ve come to realise that patience really is a virtue.

Patience is a waiting room. It builds your character and strength and forces you to trust. Whatever/whoever you believe in, patience forces you to have faith in that deity. For me, it’s God. So patience reaffirms my trust in him. That I know He has a plan and that there’s a plan of action in motion, one that I might not know of just yet, but is very definitely there. It’s like pregnancy. I can well imagine that the first people on earth who had bebes had no clue as to how long they’d be carrying this baby for. They had to trust that there was a plan and that this baby would eventually arrive. And now, in today’s world of technology, we still have to trust that 9 months is the perfect amount of time to incubate your kid. If it comes too early, it may not survive, or its first few weeks of life may be a struggle. Waiting, like with pregnancy, requires you to wait the allocated amount of time. The only difference between waiting for something and waiting for a baby is that you know how long you’ll be waiting for a baby – you don’t always know how long you’ll be waiting for something. Lucky moms!

Patience makes you stop and take a breath. If you’re too anxious and ready to go on to the next plan, you miss out on your now. D once told me a story of some famous rich-man banker (I cannot for the life of me remember who it was) who once told a reporter that his biggest regret, as he was building his wealth, was the constant search for the next milestone. He said that he was always thinking “As soon as I have this, I’ll be happy. As soon as I have that, I’ll be happy.”

 Constantly searching for your next adventure/milestone/achievement robs you of the joy of your now. Waiting for the weekend robs you of the joy of your Monday to Thursday. Waiting for summer robs you of the joy of dancing in the rain in winter. 

Patience makes you stop and take a breath. Makes you enjoy your now. Tomorrow comes quickly enough, we need to enjoy our nows rather than wishing for our next whatever.

So now, I’m rearing to go with this idea of D's and mine. But I’m prepared to wait. I have to trust the process and have faith that it will happen at the right time. I have to remember that the lessons I learn in this waiting room is vital to the adventure we’re waiting for. Who I’m becoming in this waiting room is as important as the adventure itself. And the more I learn to wait, the more at peace I feel. The more I trust the plan that God has for me. The more I enjoy my nows. My today. My time with D where we are, right now. Patience makes you take a breath and smell the roses.


  1. Such a great post and a good reminder to us all that patience is a virtue. We often wish time and things away to get to the wonderful things that will make us happy... Live for and in today x

    1. Thanks so much, Caley! Really learning to be patient and be still. Have to live for our nows! :) Lots of love, xoxo