Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Life of a Wife: Nicki Dadic

The day after a 4 day long weekend is always the hardest, don't you agree? Easter weekend was such a relaxed weekend spent with D's family and I really wish it was longer! My little blog space has been a leetle quiet and for that I do apologise! But I am back and I thought I would start us off with a new Life of a Wife post :)

This week, I interviewed Nicki Dadic who I've followed on various social media platforms for a while now and she really has the cutest little boys in the world! Now I know that my kids won't be like hers as every person is unique (obvs), but before seeing Nicki's posts and things, I didn't picture myself as a boy-mom. I always pictured future me with girls. Or at least one girl. Now though? I'm 100% down for having little boys one day! They are seriously that cute! 

You can find Nicki online by following her on Twitter and on Instagram to catch a glimpse of her gorgeous family! :)

1) Tell us a bit about yourself; who are you, how old are you, who are you married to and for how long, do you have kids and what do you and hubby do for a living?

I am Nicki Dadic, 32 (and two thirds!), wife to David and mom to Luca Jack and Mika Alex Dadic. David and I were married on 13 September 2008 … so almost 7 years! I am a freelance social media manager and my husband is an attorney, with his own thriving law practice in Johannesburg

2) Did you live together before getting married, and how do you think living together/not living together affected your life and marriage today?

Yes. Dave and I started dating in 2002, 6 months after I met him in the January when I applied for (and landed) a job at his law firm. I moved in with him in early 2003 and in 2004 we bought our first home together - before we were even engaged. I believe that in this day in age, not living together before marriage is silly. Divorce rates are higher, so why put yourself under even more pressure by waiting to find out what kind of person your future spouse is. Live together, experience life together! I think that Dave and I spent a lot of time making a life together before getting married and before having our children. So before we became a Mr & Mrs or a mom and dad, we had learnt so much about each other. I think that’s so important and I really believe it’s just one of the many reasons we make such a great team.

3) What was the hardest thing about being married in the beginning?

Hmm. I guess the hardest thing for me, was getting used to my new surname! I was Nicki Harrington before I got married and Dadic (pronounced "Dah-dich”) is pretty tricky for people to say and spell. Lots of confused conversations around pronunciation and discussions about which part of Croatia by new husband was from.

4) What's something that's completely surprised you about marriage?

How proud I am to be my husband’s wife. I mean, I was always proud of Dave and all that he did, but being his wife almost let me lay claim to his success, to be a part of it in every sense of the word. We are The Dadics … husband and wife team extraordinaire! 

5) If you have/will have kids, how do you think this changed/will change the dynamic of your marriage?

Having kids was tough on me. On us! Luca arrived and my whole world was turned upside down. Dave and I both lost our moms before we even got married and that was really something that hit us hard after Luca was born. We had no immediate support in terms of a mother figure and I felt so totally overwhelmed by this little person. Overwhelmed by the responsibility and by the love that my heart struggled to contain. I pushed Dave away a lot at the beginning, making Luca my number one priority and neglecting him as my husband and partner. Luckily for me, Dave had the wherewithal to call me out and we worked through the issues that we had. I am eternally grateful for Dave’s ability to call a spade a spade. If he didn’t … if he took the easy route of become resentful and distant, we wouldn’t be here today. 
Two kids and almost 6 years later, we manage our time together better. Sometimes! We ADORE our boys but we always remember each other. It’s important! Before there were four of us, it was just the two of us. That’s where we started and it’s always so important to remember that.

6) How do you and hubby keep the spark alive?

We laugh. We play. We go out on dates. We always hold hands and we love, hug and kiss one another openly and in public. PDAs shouldn’t be restricted to private moments. The more open you are about your feelings, the easier it is to express them in all manners and environments. After almost 13 years together, Dave still makes me laugh. Still keeps me on my toes. We don’t get too comfortable! 

7) What, in your opinion, are the three key essentials for a great marriage?

Respect - don’t take each other for granted. As soon as you lose that respect for one another, its over. 
Teamwork  - especially when you have kids, taking equal responsibility for chores, school runs, extra-murals and bed time routines is important. 
Honesty - wear your heart on your sleeve. Be totally open about how you feel. Express love, anger, frustration and elation at every possible opportunity.

8) What's the best piece of advice you got for marriage?

Never go to bed angry with one another. I mean, never say never … because it’s happened to me once or twice … then just make sure you kiss and make up ASAP :)

9) What is your personal advice for newly married couples or couples who are about to get married?

Take the time to get to know each other before you skip merrily down the aisle. Marriage is LONG TERM. Kids are FOREVER. If you look at your marriage as an adventure, a journey, you’ll enjoy it even more.  

Thank you so much, Nicki, for your answer - it was really interesting to read the answers from someone who has been with and married to someone for so long! If you would like to be a part of this series, please get in touch - amy.francis777@yahoo.com :)

Have a wonderful short week, lovelies! :)

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