Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Life of a Wife: Megan Haskin

#LifeofaWife: Megan Haskin - advice & insight on marriage from fellow wives

Lately, these weeks are all kind of merging into one because all these public holidays and long weekends are seriously putting my brain into holiday mode! It's terrible. But so good! Ha! Anyway.

This week's Life of a Wife series is on Megan Haskin! She's a naturally beautiful lady who is currently in Asia (I think? My geography is terrible!) because her and her husband decided that they didn't want to live a life tied to boring office jobs so they upped and went trapesing around the world! HOW cool?! So many people always moan about upping and leaving their jobs to see the world and these two unbelievably brave and adventurous human beings ACTUALLY did it!! AMAZING!! 

Megan blogs about her teaching experiences over at Korbay Delay, which is the Sharchop word for "wandering" and her husband takes breathtaking photos which you can have a look at on his website. Seriously, if there were two talents I wish I could have, it would be to sing and to take amazing photos - and Dylan has the photography thing down! Wow! Go take a look! You can also find Megan on Instagram and on Pinterest. Korbay Delay is also on Facebook :) 

For now, though, I leave you with Megan's insightful answers for this week's Life of a Wife series - enjoy! :)

1) Tell us a bit about yourself; who are you, how old are you, who are you married to and for how long, do you have kids and what do you and hubby do for a living?

Hi, I’m Megan! A South African twenty-three year old who is currently living and teaching in the Himalayan Kingdom of Bhutan. I have been married to my best friend for one whole year. He is a professional photographer and I am so grateful to have him with me on this crazy adventure I call life.  We are both pursuing our dreams of travelling, teaching and photography full time. 


2) Did you live together before getting married, and how do you think living together/not living together affected your life and marriage today?

My husband is five years older than I am and he had already been living alone for some time when we first started dating. We were engaged for two years and during this time we moved in together. I am so thankful that we had this time together before getting married! Dylan and I are both really easy-going people and we did not have any major problems adjusting to one another’s differences, but the cooking and cleaning and daily living out of home was really challenging for me to manage. I cannot imagine having to deal with this adjustment as well as adjusting to being married - so for us living together beforehand was ideal and really made everything easier before we got married.  

3) What was the hardest thing about being married in the beginning?

Anyone who knows me will know I have a fear of the dark (I’m honestly still as afraid as a child!) and before getting married I had never stayed alone in a house not even for one night. My husband has to travel a lot for his photography work and so I had to get used to sleeping alone for the first time in my entire life. I still dread the times when he is away but am grateful that he is able to pursue his passion. I now see it as a blessing in disguise because now I’m so used to it and am (almost) over my fear. 

4) What's something that's completely surprised you about marriage?

I was really surprised at how freeing marriage made my husband and I both feel. We no longer worry about what other people may think or assume about our intentions because we are able to say we are married and others seem to understand. My husband is so supportive and encouraging and I feel that I am so confident since getting married because I feel so secure in our relationship and my life. Other people also seem to take you much more seriously once they know you are married and really respect you for it - especially as a travelling teacher teaching young children! 


5) If you have/will have kids, how do you think this changed/will change the dynamic of your marriage?

Dylan and I really, really want children - I became a teacher because I love kids THAT much. But, for now I feel lucky that we have this time beforehand to ourselves and that we get to know ourselves fully before having to give most of our time and energy to our children. I teach young children everyday so I think I have an idea of how much attention they need and for now I’m happy to be travelling and experiencing life without that commitment. I can honestly only see myself loving my husband even more once he becomes the wonderful father I know he will be.  

6) How do you and hubby keep the spark alive?

When we lived in South Africa we would often go on dates and plan fun activities together. Once we moved to Bhutan we realised that most of those things weren't possible anymore because we live in such a rural place and so we had to come up with different ideas. We now take long walks together, go for runs, we gym in our tiny house together, we cook dinner and have our own movie nights. Its actually so much better when you realise that you don't need to do big, elaborate activities together but rather focus on the small, daily blessings that you each bring to one another. 

7) What, in your opinion, are the three key essentials for a great marriage?

Encouraging the other person to be 100% themselves - and accepting whoever your partner is. 
Communication - especially when you feel like talking the least!
And lastly, having no expectations. 

8) What's the best piece of advice you got for marriage? 

The best piece of advice I have ever gotten also seems to be the one that challenges me the most: Have no expectations. Obviously there are basic things like being kind to one another, but the expectations I am talking about are different. Expectations only ever cause disappointment - if you expect your husband to do the dishes and he doesn't, you're going to be angry. If you expect your husband to buy you flowers and he doesn't, your going to be upset. If you expect your husband to hug and kiss you everyday and he forgets, you're going to think he doesn't love you. Just don't have any expectations! I know its super hard, I have expectations without even realising it - but it really gives you such a happy marriage if both of you expect nothing and are grateful for whatever your partner does do for you. 



9) What is your personal advice for newly married couples or couples who are about to get married?

Don’t compare your marriage to anyone else’s. Everyday we are bombarded with media that tells us the way marriage is “supposed” to be. Most of the movies or stories end at happily ever after (many people expect their relationships to be like the movies) and you don’t see what happens after. Marriage and relationships take work and they aren't always perfect - you don’t want to be with your partner every second of every day and that's okay! Its YOUR marriage and you get to make your own rules.

Thank you Megan for your wonderful answers! It's really interesting getting the perspective from someone who is living outside of the comforts of their home country. I can well imagine the test a relationship will stand when travelling and suddenly living in an unfamiliar country! 

If you would like to be a part of the Life of a Wife series, please contact me on amy.francis777@yahoo.com - I would love to hear from you! :)

4 comments:

  1. Love it! Thanks for being such an inspiration, Amy! X x

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    1. Thank you, Megan, for being part of this! Really loved reading your answers, and your blog is awesome! Your kids make me laugh so much! :)

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  2. What an awesome interview:) thanks for sharing!

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    1. Thank you so much, Jessica! Hope you stay a while on my little blog :)

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